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This blog has been designed most for the benefits of my students. I am interested in spiritual intelligence because I believe it leads to happiness and resilience. If you want copies of my published research (conference papers or articles in journals), feel free to contact me.

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Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Collaboration with

For several months, I have been discussing a variety of projects with Fazrul Ismail, CEO of At this stage, we are trying to modify the Happy in Islam project to help Malaysian teenagers become more productive. Anybody interested in helping out should contact me.

Monday, August 20, 2012

Open for business again!

Hari Raya is over and I am preparing for the new semester. I will be teaching two classes: MGT6600 (Masters students) and MGT2010 (undergrad). With both classes, I intend to continue the Happy in Islam project.
However, this time I want to focus more on mental models. the literature on Training and Development tells us that people fail to develop key skills because their mental model is not conducive to learning new skills. However, if they change their mental model, learning new skills become a lot easier to accept. At the end of the semester, I can discuss this point in more detail.

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

The Prophet's softskills

Al hamdulillah, I attended a 4 hour training last Sunday. The training was conducted by a team of Malaysians specializing in analyzing and teaching the psychology behind the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) (see and call Muhammad Firdaus at 013 2002705 for more info). Here are some overall learning points: The Prophet (SAW)never investigated the background of a sin unless he absolutely had to - if somebody admitted to having done something wrong, the Prophet (SAW) did not look for details. He would simply point to actions (like praying, fasting, giving charity,....) that would compensate for the sin. The Prophet (SAW)rarely talked about Paradise or Hell to motivate people. For example, if somebody committed a sin, he never said, "Astighfirullah! You are going to Hell for that one." If people did something good, he would rarely say things "Well, Paradise is yours for doing that" [there are some exceptions as sometimes Allah SWT would inform them of the names of some of the Companions who were promised Paradise while they were still alive - but that is informing them of a fact). The Prophet (SAW) did not use words like "why" or "if". He used "what" and "when" instead. For example, he never asked people, "why did you do this?". Rather he would say, "what led you to do this". This seems like a small difference but "why" implies an accusation whereas "what" is about getting the facts. He also did not say, "if you do this, I will do that." He used to say instead, "When you do this, I will do that". He never called people bad names (like "kafir"). Generally, he was very good at managing people's emotions by either giving them good news when they have done good deeds, or giving them good news (by reminding them of Allah's Forgiveness and Mercy and encouraging them to do good to compensate for the sin) when they have committed sins.

Another soft skills session